Straight up Bozo

Recently I've been reading this book; Modern Love by Aziz Ansari. 

It's been incredibly insightful and hilarious to boot! One thing that has been a recurring theme in the book is that men are straight up bozos. No seriously, there is even a chapter by that name. I often hear men talk about how hard it is to find an attractive women with a brain but it's the same for us women...finding an attractive guy who you can have intellectual conversations and chemistry with is like searching for a needle in a haystack. I once dated a guy who was my "type" from his perfect hair, down to his perfect shoes. Everything about him physically was exactly what I wanted in a man.  He was tall, muscular, handsome, with a great smile and dimples that made me melt! He was an amazing kisser too. What's more is that he was attracted to me too! Yes, I was in awe of his hotness and the fact that he liked me back was pretty freaking fantastic. Alas, his biggest flaw was in fact his brain. Don't get me wrong he was a very nice guy and the perfect match for someone else but we where on different levels in every capacity. I eventually found myself getting tired of having to define at least one word in every conversation. I'm sure it's the same for men. You're so attracted to this person on a physical level that you try to play off their idiocy as being cute. Eventually it looses its "cute" factor and just becomes plain annoying. We never had long insightful conversations and he definitely never taught me anything intellectual but he was hot! So we small talked and we told each other how attractive we thought the other was. It was shallow plain and simple. That is until one day I decided that over the months we dated he was gradually becoming less attractive. I found a desire to be with someone who challenged me and taught me new things on every level. I'm not saying that I'm incredibly smart but I am saying that I'm not a bozo. Therefore I can't be with a bozo because I'll get bored way to easily! In this modern world we are more apt to accept a less intelligent partner in favor of sexual appeal. Anyone who has or is activily dating has at one point made this compromise. One thing I know is that beauty fades but stupid can lasts forever.

Lasting love with someone is what most people want. I know I do! The thing is that we all need to look for something deeper than the physical, we need to find someone who speaks to the intellectual, emotional, and spiritual aspects of our life. No one is perfect but there just might be someone who is "perfect" for you! Attraction is important but attraction should go much deeper than skin deep. You need to be attracted to the person for who they are and how they positively effect your life.